Afternoon babes,
So today this morning I was lying in bed reading, listening to my calm, relaxing meditation music. I looked up out of the window and all you could see were thousands of snowflakes gently falling to the ground. Being inside, it feels like you are in a snow globe – it’s lovely and cosy!
Looking out the window watching the snow, I thought, each and every one of these snowflakes are different, they are gracefully falling to the floor creating beautiful scenes. Now even if you do not like the snow you cannot deny that the snow creates fairy tale styled, beautiful scenery.
Then it got me thinking, why can’t humans do that? No I’m not talking about working together to build a perfect landscape. Well actually I guess metaphorically I am saying that.
Each and everyone of us are different however when working together the potential to build something beautiful is huge. Yet unfortunately we live in a society where some snowflakes simply cannot do this – they want to build that snowman all on their own.
This topic has been playing on my mind a lot lately particularly as it is my mission to build a global community of women who are continuously supportive, mindful and feel happy within themselves and towards others.
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It is argued, that it is our nature to be social beings. It just so happens that 80% of this is done within the online world these days. There is a theory of choice which recognises that we all have 5 genetically coded needs – survival, love & belonging, power, freedom and fun. So how do we satisfy these needs? Well through human relations.
So what happens if the balance isn’t right? Where is fulfilment for you? What does it even look like?
As we are all on our own journey why can’t we support others on theirs too? Well people pick holes in other people in order to lessen their vulnerability of their lack of fulfilment in certain areas. Think back to school when you are on sports day and someone beats you or someone else gets a promotion instead of you. How many of us have left a smarmy comment for achieving something that actually deep down we would love to of done? Instead of celebrating with those people and using it as a kick up the bum for you, we wallow in blame. (Blame being their fault, as remember “nothing is ever our fault”).
Self reflection is a process you should continually do as part of your self development throughout life to be the best version of you that you can be. Don’t be scared to ask for help and build that support network with the people around you. If they aren’t supporting you, never doubt yourself just get them away from your network. Remember there is a difference between constructive criticism (which I think can be very valuable) and being an arsehole.
REMEMBER: “When someone else judges you, they are only highlighting insecurities about themselves”
I just want you to think next time you may want to say something about someone else, or you feel bitter or jealous, think about it carefully and ask yourself why?
You have no idea what is going on other people’s lives, you have no idea what it takes for certain people to behave and achieve goals in a certain way even if you are very close to them so ALWAYS BE GENTLE, KIND AND RESPECTFUL.
Be the beautiful snowflake elegantly floating to the floor helping create stunning scenes with other snowflakes. Don’t be that bit of salt.
Take care babes x