Hi babes,
I have stopped and started this blog so many times as talking about how I feel about the world right now is really difficult to navigate let alone articulate.
Freedom from the pandemic looks brighter into an even darker cloud of war crimes and destruction.
Joy of social events return with feelings of guilt for those who cannot experience them.
Desire to leave the UK and explore the world while others so desperately try to get in.
Celebrate life comforts while living prices begin to tower over us.
The light at the end of the tunnel we were so longing for becomes smaller and smaller.
How should we feel? What can we do? What is even happening?
Here we have another rollercoaster ride of uncertainty, the gift we never realise we want.
No, I am not saying we want any of the things happening around us and in the world, coming from a compassionate empath it’s extremely difficult to cope with. What I am saying is though, uncertainty can give us courage, bravery, resilience, focus and many more empowering emotions.
Think about where you are now? We are on the back of an extremely unprecedented time period and if you were to say you will be locked in, isolated, everything you enjoy will be closed and that goes before additional scare mongering from media sources and of course the monster of the virus, would you believe you would get through it? Would you even think that it could happen?
Don’t get me wrong, it has not have been easy, we felt lost, confused, scared and isolated but it also built our resilience and determination for what we want and how we want to spend our time.
Here on the other side we are seeing ‘The Great Resignation’, people are making decisions they never would have previously. People are seeing their lives, their relationships, their purpose in new ways.
You have families reconnecting, houses being redecorated, couples relocating, did we finally receive the message properly that life really is too short and in a heart beat everything could change?
Next week marks the two year anniversary of when lockdown was first announced in the UK, two years ago today we were blissfully unaware of the insane wave of uncertainty and change that was about to happen in our lives.
I know uncertainty can seem very frightening, confusing and conflicting but let’s flip this around can you also imagine if we knew everything that was going to happen?
Would you really want to be able to prepare for a situation you knew was going to be really difficult or try and deal with it in the moment?
Humans are resilient social animals that have that fight mode ready for attack, danger and threat. Our nervous system is quite literally designed for us to be able to cope with these situations. Perhaps the modern Western world has somewhat dampened that innate instinct, or just developed it in new ways but we certainly have it.
It’s all very well talking about it but also our brain doesn’t particularly like staying in this mode, so what can actually be done?
Well, a great building block of where we can start is looking at what IS certain.
- Who you are…
- What do you love doing?
- What are your skills, qualifications and attributes?
- Who do you love connecting with?
Picture a huge tornado and you are at the eye of the storm. Everything around you is unsettled, moving too fast, there is no focus or clarity, but where you are babes, is the calmest part and that’s because it’s you.
Now ask yourselves all those questions that allow yourself to reconnect with yourself and build from there. What could you do? What would bring you fulfilment? What would make those dark mornings that little bit easier?
Visualise what you would like situations to look like, visualise how you would like to feel, visualise what life would be for you.
Connection and community is a huge driving factor for our mental health.
We are social animals, so make sure you stay connected to those around you, stay connected to the people that make you feel fulfilled, empowered and inspired.
Instead of looking at the world of uncertainty through a lens of panic and fear, look at it as new opportunities and drive.
Whether that’s building for you or those around you. Supporting those who so desperately need help and aid does not mean presence of your physical body or finances.
Allow uncertainty to unlock innovation and explore new pathways for yourself.
Whether that means getting lost in your own bubble at home focusing on being present day in day out, or it means starting new hobbies, building a project to help others, the list is endless!
While focusing on the now and future, we are not dwelling on the past babes, but never underestimate how far you have come.
I want to say three closing points that I want you to remember everyday
- Let other people’s pain be their pain and support with open arms without ego taking it on to be yours.
- You are not your thoughts.
- The world happens for you not to you.
Deep breaths, we have got this babes x